Kristin Cavallari opens up about divorce and dating in a new interview, including how she won’t be getting back together with former flame/new podcast partner Stephen Colletti.
The reality TV star candidly answered all questions about the call her daddy podcast, including the tough ones – on what made her marriage to former NFL star Jay Cutler “toxic,” a word she used to describe him in the past.
“So that’s my only thing because I have three kids with him,” said the Very Cavallari alum started. “I’m very careful what I say – if you and I don’t have microphones in front of us, I’ll fucking tell you – but it’s their dad and my eldest is now Googling us and I just want to be extra careful My Mom Never Said Anything Bad About My Dad Growing Up [after they divorced] and I really respected that and I want to be that kind of mom.”
That said, “It was toxic. Period. End of story. That’s all I have to say,” the 35-year-old replied.
Cavallari said that when she and Cutler got together, after-The hills after a few years of partying, “At the time of my life, he was perfect for me”, saying it was “easy and fun”. However, she also spoke of “red flags” about “dealbreaker” behavior.
“I cancelled [our] commitment [in 2011 for] for the same reason that I divorced,” she said. “I should say the same reasons. So I guess if there’s anything to take away from that, it’s: you can’t ignore red flags.”
They announced their separation in 2020, but says it was long overdue. “It took me a few years to really pull the trigger to be honest with you guys,” she said.
The Uncommon James founder called divorce scary, sad but also “the best thing…In any relationship, you just have to realize what the dealbreakers are for you…and I was really upset . That was the end result. And I was in an unhealthy relationship. So for me, it’s not worth it. Also, I didn’t want my kids to think it was normal. I wanted that they see me happy and see me – not now, but eventually – with someone who truly respects me and treats me the way I need to be treated.“
Since then, she’s been back in the dating game. Despite the toxicity, a few dates have been with her ex-husband. She is too shared a kiss with his ex Collettiher boyfriend from high school, like Laguna Beach fans remember, and co-host of her new podcast, Back to the beach with Kristin and Stephen.
“I went to dinner with him almost two years ago and we kissed, which was fun,” she said of her reunion with Colletti. “I was actually dating someone at the time – [and] just to make up for lost time – so… it kind of didn’t turn into anything” more.
She claimed that was the end, saying, “Once I’m done with someone, I’m done. It’s like a switch that flips and I can’t go back. “
She had a lot of fun telling stories of encounters, from then until today. In one, she talked about going on a date two months earlier with an “actor” she didn’t identify. The encounter went horribly wrong – in the middle of a busy LA bar/restaurant.
“He was slamming glasses,” she recalls. “We were sitting at the bar. It’s fucking packed. He gets up to re-enact a stunt he did [and] accidentally bumps into the waiter and thinks, “Oh, I’m so sorry.” I was like, please sit down. He’s creating all this commotion in the middle of Laurel Hardware.”
She also talked about being chased by younger men.
“I attracted a lot of guys in their twenties,” she said. “I don’t know what this is about… You know I have three children, don’t you?”
For the record, Cavallari said 30 is his minimum age while a 45-year-old businessman who is not on social media is his ideal. She appointed Alexander Skarsgård, from big little lieslike his celebrity crush.
Cavallari also said a confident man is a must – as well as someone who’s okay with who she’s dated guys who have “a taste of fame and they lose their minds.” .They almost get addicted to it, or it’s really threatening…They get really jealous and insecure.”
She also wants him to make the first move – but not, we repeat, not via DM.
“Where I am right now in my life, I want to be continued,” she said. “I want to be f***ing wooed. I want the man to make a fucking effort. ‘Cause guys now – again I was with Jay for 10 years, this is the first time that i’m dating the social media world – it’s like it’s a shitty show over there i hate every second but guys are lazy as fuck now – and they are always looking for the next best thing So it’s like, no, I’m sorry, I don’t have time for your little *** bulls anymore. Like let me see how serious you are and putting in the effort. So, no, I don’t take the first step.
“Now I’m so different from dating,” she said. “I see shit a mile away and it’s like, no, I’m not going to put up with this.”